Intensive Week: Freedom from Emotional Dependency

Every dependency, every addiction requires a breeding ground in which it can grow and thrive. The breeding ground of emotional dependency is uncontrolled feeling. However, it is not entirely clear which feelings or emotions of whose are involved here.
The emotional person is already able as a child to perceive and feel themselves and their environment; they are warm-hearted and compassionate, grateful and loving, creative and productive, joyful and sensitive.
They are able to feel everything, and accordingly, they perceive not only primary emotions, but also ego-emotions and physical pain. Of course, as a child, they cannot yet truly categorize all of this.

They feel every touch or change in their body, every tangent of their inner life, with overwhelming clarity, and try to categorize and understand these perceptions. They very quickly realize that not everyone has these intense sensations. On the contrary, there is hardly anyone who feels the same way they do. No one feels like they do and understands them.
Thus, they feel misunderstood and wrong!
If their environment—usually their parents, siblings, and extended family—does not know these sensations, cannot empathize with them, and in the worst case devalues them as hypersensitive, oversensitive, inadequate, incapable, and unviable, then something must surely be misprogrammed in them. It can only be their fault ….
In therapy, the first contact with a narcissistic environment almost always comes to light here. From narcissism, their emotional world is declared banal, unwanted, and even manipulative.
The family members, who themselves are in an emotional dependency, may understand them, but they feel wrong themselves and suffer, and cannot offer them a solution. Often, they even try to reprogram them because they do not want them to follow the same path of suffering as they did themselves ....
Thus, they learn early on that the perception of their own essential needs counts for nothing in society, and they suppress them.
They sacrifice their SELF, their SUPPOSEDLY WRONG self!
However, what is suppressed in our heart, in our soul, seeks an outlet to the outside.
This outlet ensures the attachment to what is sought and thus leads to dependency.

Since the emotional person is a master of perception, they can feel their counterpart in full and also categorize the corresponding feelings. They know exactly what their counterpart wants and needs. Through the suppression of their own needs, their focus of feeling is directed completely outward.
They try to give their counterpart exactly what they themselves would have needed, after all, they have felt and learned many things firsthand. They know a person's desire for relief from every single pain. Because they can empathize so well and give their counterpart exactly what they need, they receive recognition in return and feel loved because of it.
This is where the conditioning occurs: Sacrifice your self and you will become a hero!

Gradually, they see themselves as a hero, as a savior, because they understand the other person in their pain.
They completely lose sight of their own SELF in the process.
They compensate with the recognition that was denied to them themselves. The more they try, the more they can help others.
If they do not succeed, they believe they have not tried hard enough.

Their feeling is their survival strategy; it gives them the opportunity to recognize everything early on and act accordingly.
Because they only focus on their feeling, they forget to protect their soul.
They give up their own boundaries to immerse themselves completely in other personalities, to perceive everything and make no mistakes.
This gives a corresponding counterpart the opportunity to manipulate, because the connection is open….

The solution lies in a change of focus....
If the emotionally dependent person learns to look at themselves again and use their feelings for themselves, they will have the opportunity to recognize what they are searching for. It is not love from the outside, but their love for themselves ....

Are you a sensitive person who constantly cares for and looks after their environment, who holds themselves back greatly? Who likes helping others and taking on their burdens, who can feel the suffering of others so strongly that it causes them physical pain?
Have you lost your joy of life because you feel you can no longer cope with all this responsibility? Do you suffer in silence and feel simply not good enough?
Do you feel spoken to and are you searching for relief from this unhappiness?
Then I can show you the way out of this pattern. If you are ready to look at what is weighing you down and open to taking your life into your own hands, then the time is ripe for change ....

One week of healing that will change your life ....

It is time to recognize and resolve emotional dependency. There is a way out of the hamster wheel .... and into life!
Meet yourself and the programs through which others control you. Recognize the ropes you hang from and are bound by. See the machinery you function according to ....
It will surprise you what kind of wonderful person emerges once the entanglements are untied.
So stand up and rediscover your inner dignity! Walk upright and with backbone right into life, a loving person with vibrant joy of life, who is content and happy! Give yourself the love you deserve! You are worth it!

Allow yourself to embark on the journey to yourself....

Copyright: Corinne Dettmer, 22.10.2022